For me, all my life has been about love. The search for love, the meaning of love and the pain of rejection. The connections love makes within us and around us. The effects of deep rooted fears. And, also, the fear of being loved just as I am directly opposite my fear of rejection. The longing for the Super Loved Relationship however has always been stronger than my fear of exactly that same relationship. I cannot count the times in my life when I have been called a dreamer, a ‘true romantic’ or a fool even for believing in something that lies beyond the pain we so clearly experience in our search for love and acceptance.

One of my teachers challenged me some years ago. He said: ‘There is an escapism hidden beneath your romantic fantasies. What will happen if you just accept reality of imperfect relationships, getting hurt and feeling lonely a lot of the time?’ At the time I thought he was crazy. It took a while for me to understand that he was teaching from his perspective, looking at me through his ‘glasses of pain’. I chose to respect his lesson and looked into my ‘escapism’. And surprisingly yes, I did find a desire to escape the harshness of life. I found my pink glasses, to which I was profoundly attached. However, once I started digging deeper, I also learned that my desire to escape does not just come from wanting to avoid pain in my life. It comes from a much deeper memory of unconditional love.

And you know what is so interesting about unconditional love? It does not contain any pain. Unconditional love loves to love. Why? Because that is its ‘job’. It includes anything and everything. And it expands and becomes bigger with every little thing it includes. The other day I was listening to a Marc Anthony song called All is love:

Love is all
The laughter and the tears that fall
The mundane and the magical
Love is all
All is love
The careless word, the healing touch
The getting and the giving of
All is love

We, human beings, tend to attribute pain to love. Love can hurt and abandon us, we think. We even believe that love can choose not to love us. But you know what? This is not true! Love does not judge, compare, contrast or discern. Love just LOVES to love! It loves all of your perfection, alongside with all the moments you felt in pain, abandoned and alone. Love gathers all of you up in her loving arms and loves all of it. It cannot do anything else.

So…? What can you do with this? The answer to this is both simple and complicated. What you can do is unlearn the blocks you have built against love. Love is your birth right and your natural state of being. We are only at the very beginning of this unlearning. Are you ready to continue your journey?